10 Things to Note On a Hot Date

You think that you've prepared yourself fully for the first serious date with your dream girl. THINK AGAIN.

I pointed out the top things you should NEVER NEVER NEVER do on a hot date.

1. Appearing Desperate

When you are out on a date, try not to appear as a girlfriend-hunter. Girls do not appreciate the thought of being somebody's prey. The like to be treated as individuals and equal - someone you can work together with for the future.

"Can you be my girlfriend?" Some guys, even the most intelligent and sensitive ones blurt out this one liner on the very first date. This is the CLOSEST as you get to an emotional suicide. You've just killed yourself on this battlefield.

Some guys are too touchy for the girl to tolerate. A girl wouldn't fancy a guy who leaves his fingerprints all over her on the first date. On a serious note, some girls wouldn't hesitate to call the police. BEWARE!

I advocate readers to always remember to start off as friends. That's what girls appreciate the most. Girls like passion to be develop naturally. Even though it may seem unfair that guys always to be taking the initiative, that's the ways things go centuries ago. But taking initiative doesn't mean that you have to verbalize your intentions or show your emotions or even be so imitate physically. Enjoy the outing together and have fun. It’s the first step towards a relationship, and not forgetting to communicate.

2. Bullshitting

Some guys think they are the best breeds of humans in the world. They harp on their achievements (some of them imaginary). “I’ve 10 ex-girlfriends before. They all couldn’t resist me.” “I’ve dabbled in stocks and shares and earned tens over thousands.” (What the hell! Bastard! Right! Just shut your gap lah!) What the girls don’t know is that all the 10 ex-girlfriends ditched him and that he lost millions before earning that pittance of thousands.

Girls are discerning these days. Not the gullible trusting princesses of yesteryears. You may find it an ego-booster to talk about your achievements. The girl’s interpretation: You are just too full of yourself. Will there be a place for me in his heart? There is no sense of security being with you. Lesson learnt? (Guys ah, be humble, be sincere. Be confident but don’t overdose on the confidence)

Instead of impressing your date by talking about your greatest achievements, the GOLDEN key to a great conversation is being down to earth keeping things light-hearted and positive. Generate a wide list of fun and humorous conversation topics (Lame jokes when appropriate) to keep your date entertained. This helps you avoid awkward silences in between conversation. You may also want to ask questions about her which truly interests you. Getting her to speak up about herself can help ease the tension between both of you; it also helps to garner useful information about her and get to know her better. (It works naturally! Trust me!)

Women are inquisitive creatures so you can tell if a girl is interested in you simply by the type of questions she asks. Hence, if she’s drowning with personal questions about you then BEWARE! EITHER brace yourself for the second date OR discard away.

3. When Guys Talk Down to Woman

I have loads of friends who are such chauvinists (clones of Henry S.F. Cooper, Jr.) that woman shun them like the plaque. The last thing a woman wants to know is you belittling them. Woman these days are gaining control over many aspects. They are entrepreneurs, managers, CEOs. Some even make it to the ranks of the top 10 powerful women in the world. On top of that, they also have to handle family and educating the children. I take my hats off these women. (Only to these women.)

Girls hate to engage in condescending conversations. For all you know, they could be more decisive and in control that what you believe them to be. The stereotype of girls being submissive and indecisive is way outdated. Don’t expect them to de-shell the prawns for you. Maybe out of love they might, but never because they are expected to do so.

Treat women in this modern age with respect. (I mean it.) They might be superiors in the workplace and extremely high achievers. Keep your chauvinistic remarks in the deep dungeons of your home and it would be much more pleasant experience communicating with the people from Venus.

4. Imposing Themselves on Girls

Guys will usually take the initiative to ask the girl out on a date. Just before the date, some guys actually instruct the girls to do so many things for them that the girls feels like an errand-girl.

“Can you help me buy movie tickets? Can you help me reserve a place in the restaurant?” It may mark the end of any romantic connection the girl wants to have with you. One strange guy actually requested to stay over at the girl’s house after the first date. Reason being he was locked out of his own house and doesn’t have keys to enter. The girl would be thinking, how careless of him not to have brought his keys out. Next, how to explain a stranger staying over to her folks. A more normal girl would be thinking, what a creep. It seriously gave this girl a lot frustration.

5. Being Wishy-Washy

While seeking date’s opinion could be gentlemanly act, do have some idea of where to go as an alternative should the girls cannot decide. Nothing beats having no idea of where to head later. The WORST answer to give to a girl is “Anything also can.” It just tells that you do not care enough to do some planning. Some girls still love guys to be in charge to some extent and take the initiative. If you want to appear gentlemanly, offer one idea with an alternative at the back of your hand. See her wince at your first idea but fret not, because there’s always a back up plan. (Muah hahaha! How thoughtful man.)

6. Bad Dress Sense

Some guys dress to impress. Some guys just don’t care about their appearance, thinking that it’s inner beauty that matters. (What happened if inner beauty is deep deep inside can’t see leh?) Would these same people like theirs girls not to shave? Ladies in general do not for looks when considering a guy for a life-partner. They go for qualities such as stability, maturity and humor and someone who can bring them happiness. (Haiz, how many girls tell me that le? Can memorize liao.) However, does sloppy dressing help? Do you really think that you look cool?

Basic things come first. Guys do not need to appear well kempt and groomed. Dress appropriately for occasion. Put in some effort in choosing what to put on. That means no flip flop for a dinner in town. That said you also won’t need a tuxedo for a picnic. Being overdressed will put pressure on the girl. Remember that a date is supposed to be a relaxing time to chill out. No point putting pressure on yourself to appear like a charming prince.

7. Being Mama’s Boy

“Hey, my mum says I got to be home before ten today.” “My mum picked this shirt for me.” “My mum decides that I should go to university.” Mum here, Mum there. (Wau lau! This type is a no-no man! Tabule tahan!) Remember that there is nothing wrong with being filial to your parents. But never let your mum’s presence dominate the date. A girl values a guy who is independent and has aspirations on his own. The overpowering parental presence during the first date out with her won’t help. (Seriously!) It probably shows that you have been groomed carefully by your parents, just like the way a bonsai has been trimmed to perfection by the botanist.

You are not your parents’ puppet. Show her that you have a mind of your own. Make decision yourself. Show her that you are dynamic individual with a unique personality.

8. Bring Ungentlemanly

Girls frequently comment that all gentlemen in the world are extinct. The men they date seem to be barbarians just out from the deep jungles of Palau Tekong. One girl friend of mine was quite happy that the guy opened the door for her but before she knew that the glass door slammed in her face. The bruised girl will never want to see that guy ever again. (I guarantee plus chop 1 year warranty.)

Men, come on, it’s doesn’t take much to be a gentleman, hold the door for her. Offer to pay on the first date. Send her home after the date. Simple acts like this will show that you care for her. Girls appreciate these acts.

9. Being Rude

Girls are attentive creatures. They keep a lookout for how you behave every second. It’s not enough just to treat your date like a princess. She’s observing how you treat the people around you. Girls think that this is a good way to judge your personality.

It took half an hour for a steak to be served to the guy. He got frustrated. “Why so slow!” The guy grunted at the waitress in the restaurant. The guy insists of pursuing the matter while waitress apologized profusely.

“I don’t care. I want to see your boss.” He kicked up the fuss and makes a scene, interrupting the serenity of the romantic restaurant. His intention of wanting fast service was not wrong, but it also revealed the flaws in his character, that he is impatient and hot tempered. (Guys, take the opportunity to interact!)

10. Checking Other Women Out

Have you ever been in a situation where you are with your date while a pretty girl dressed sexily in a low cut dress walked passed? Uncontrollably your eyes gravitate towards her and finally, a 180 degrees turn. This, she will notices very easily. (Guys, don’t make it so obvious!)

However, most of the girls don’t mind you looking at other girls. But do not comment on how great or sexy they look. It’s irritating to them. If you are really serious about your dream girl, she will be the only girl in your eyes. Other girls will not leave any impression on you. (I am trying to say, can see but don’t say it out. You are just digging your own grave.)

Conclusion

Essay also have conclusion how can this one don’t have? Please remember that a date is a time for you to impress your dream girl. Prepared you may impress them, but these are some mistakes that you probably won’t want to make. I hope my philosophy helps make your hot date a sizzling one. Good luck!

Professor |3x
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